My step son is getting married and I was not invited to the only bridal shower that my future step daughter in law is having. I have been married to my H for 10 yrs. Through the years I /we have spent much time with my skids. They are 27 and 29. Family vacations,dinners, hoildays, etc. I thought we had a good realationship. They are always pleasant to me. While I do not like the ex (kids don't know how i feel) we have all been together many times over the years for b-days, graduations, weddings,etc. We all are friendly, no scenes ever, BM and I even hug each other hello and good bye. I am not the reason for their divorce. I have two adult children who treat my H very well. But i also wasn't invited to a bridal shower for my SD 2 years ago when the BM and MOG were. I went to a second shower that was a couples shower so of course my H was invited also. Now that I look back on things I seem to only be included when my H is otherwise I'm not! My son and daughter in law are in the wedding and my H and I are putting on the rehearsal dinner along with the ex, yet my H and I are doing all the work for it. I feel like this is a major slap in my face and not sure how to handle the snub. My H is very upset by this. The kicker is my SD asked if she could come spend the night at our house after the shower because she didn't want to stay at her mother's because she has company! She knows I'm not invited to the shower and I'm sure she thinks it's fine to come over after the shower and tell me all about it!! We are going to go out of town to avoid that, so my H told her we won't be home so she will have to stay with her mom! I told my H to wait until after the shower to address this with the kids. Any thoughts out there?