I'm mom of DS13 and DD7...divorced over 3 years now. Ex lives 5 hours away. He takes them 3 times a year for visitation. I have to offer any information about them (school, doctors, EC, etc) because he NEVER ask. In fact, he rarely calls them.
Fast forward. I filed Contempt against him a few weeks ago. We have a court date in September. The Contempt consist of him not paying back CS and 1/2 of bills ordered by Court. It also consist of him not paying his 1/2 of dental that wasn't covered by insurance. He isn't paying any of this because he simply does not want to. He thinks he can somehow get out of it although it's already been court ordered (ignorance). Another part of the Contempt is his refusal to pick up medication for our son from his local post office that I overnighted, causing him to be off of it for 3 weeks. His refusal to put the medication I sent for our daughter on her skin condition the 5 weeks she was there. He didn't do any of this because he is LAZY. A band popped off of our son's brackets and he "said" he was going to go to a local orthodontist and have them pop one back on...but did he? NOPE. He "didn't have time" during those 2 weeks.
The MAIN part of the Contempt is him undermining my relationship with our oldest child, DS13. I cannot believe all the crap he was saying to him while he was there this Summer. I had some real issues when my son came home and we have been working through it and now it's getting back to normal. Our son sees a pychologist and really doesn't need his father telling him a bunch of B.S.
Soooo after my ex has refused to communicate via email because he doesn't want a record of the crap he says to me, he texted the other day asking for my email (after he was served, of course). I've given it to him before. So I got an email asking for a list of ALL of the children's docs, dentist, specialist, and schools. It's pretty sad when a parent doesn't know the name of the schools their children attend, IMO. I've given him this information before. Question is: What is he up to? It's not going to get him out of having to pay what is owed. Custody isn't happening, no way. It would be silly to try but who knows. So why does he want this information NOW? In all these years (even when we were married) he never cared to be bothered. The email was not written by him...I'm thinking his wife.... THOUGHTS??
BF? What BF?
Quoting chasinrainbows:
I sent him an email with all of the information. I have nothing to hide. He is on all of the forms. Our kids go for regular check-ups and then some. I also included in the email that he has been given all of this information before. Some of the doctors are from when we were still married, lol. He should be embarrassed he didn't know the name of their schools. I guess I will find out what he's up to soon enough.
Quoting pdxmum:
I would give him what he asks for, strategically of course by always indicating when you had previously sent him the same data, and then I would forget about him. If all you are saying is true, you have nothing to worry about. Enjoy your kids and forget him.
If BP doesn't have the money to see the kid.
Do You Think 50/50 Custody Is Good For the Kids?
- chasinrainbows
on Aug. 10, 2012 at 3:10 PM