After reading post after post about women whose husbands basically through the Mom position on them so that he didn't have to worry about being a Dad, I've come to one conclusion-
Christ, I am glad I told SO from the beginning I am not a "Mom-type" and I do not plan to be one- ever. While I have helped pick up slack around the house from time to time, I do not take care of SS outside of the once-in-a-great-while-for-a-few-minutes situations that happen when SO runs to the store or whatever.
If SO ever tried throwing that position on me without talking to me about it first- oh boy would there be hell to pay. I do not understand why women who very obviously DO NOT want to be in that position put up with it, and then don't know how to tell their husband, "Look! These are YOUR children, not mine, please take care of them, or send them to their mothers, because I am neither mother nor father and shouldn't be doing this regularly without being consulted with first!"
Why is this so hard??