Ok I am not offically the SM yet as my SO and I arnt married yet. However I have been with him for 3 years this October and he has a 5 year old 8 month old and a 3 year 7 month old.
Now the situation is their BM's father who lived with them at their moms recently passed away and I do mean recently. The girls were with us this saturday and their mom called hysterical she is the one who found her fathers body. Well even though it isnt my place, and trust me I haven't said anything to them. We are all trying to figure out how to explain to them that grandpa is gone. My SO, his ex, her new husband and I are all at a loss. I was the oldest one's age when my grandpa passed away and I was the one that found him and I still remember that to this day how tramatizing that is for a child and I wish to help protect them from this. Please do any of you have any advice to help us with this?
Also we are keeping them here a little longer than normal so their mom can calm down and try to gather herself . My SO had to leave for work and about a half hour after he left the girls were sitting on the couch watching tv I went into the laundry room to put the clothing in the dryer as we really need their bed sheets and the oldest had an accedent. Well I suddenly hear the door and run out of the laundry room. The youngest had opened the door and was standing outside on our pourch. I freaked out. I scream grabed her arm and pulled her inside. Just last month in this trailer park some drunk idiot was speeding and crashed into the trailer right across the street from us. I don't know what I would have done had something happened to her. I txted her father at work who was like aww poor girl. All I could think about was her getting hurt, or some stranger walking past and seeing her outside unsupervised they could have grabbed her and ran or called DCFS and how much trouble I could have gotten in. I put her in the corner and yelled at her for doing it. Was I wrong to yell at her for doing this? Since they don't know about grandpa we agreed no special treatment and they arn't allowed to just open the door and go outside alone. I just hope I did the right thing.