Scenario: I get off work I pickup the kids then go over to my moms to get my 4month old. Any-whoo, ss decided to play with my daughter and lock her out the house by locking the screen door on her. I tell him to open the door. SS goes out and comes back in without unlocking the door. DD is still screaming open the door!
I go out there and asked why he locked it and he had nothing to say. So therefore I spanked his hand and he gestured as if he wanted to hit me, started flaring his nostrils,gritting his teeth and told me Don't touch me and Why you have to touch me! I explained to him as long as he is under my roof and I am his parent then you need to listen and do what you are told. Then SS started crying. I made him sit on the porch until we were ready to leave.
Following day SS came in the kitchen and brought up that situation. He couldn't explain it to me and I was confused on how he had felt. I then had to be really Stern with him to let him know that if you do anything wrong or out of line you will get disciplined. If it was Dh, ss would have not said a word.
I can't help but think that he is thinking that because I am not REAL mom; im not for sure. When I asked him does he understand that when he acts up there will be consequences, he says yes.
I'm very confused. If ss understands then why did he bring up that situation again? I do not want him thinking that I discipline him for no reason. Because that is not the case at all. I do not want this to escalate and get completely outta hand.
Have you been in this situation before? How did you resolve it? ANy suggestions?