I've briefly mentioned my 26 yr old sd in here only once before but please tell me I'm not wrong here.
My daughters are 13 and 9. Good kids. They don't lie or steal. They are good students and very well liked by friends, family and friends families. But my m-i-l LOVES to "oh you guys are just like your sister!"
NO THEY ARE NOT!
The sd was a pot smoker and drinker by 13, a high school drop out by 15 and she is a notorious liar and thief among the family. She has been fired from every job she has ever had, has done unspeakable things to me, had an abortion at 5.5 months pregnant and just got released from jail on felong drug charges and I'm only skimming the service here.
Am I taking this to hard or should I let up a bit?
OK you're not taking it the wrong way and MIL really isn't saying anything wrong either. She wants to believe that all the kids are the same...that's a good thing in her mind. To you it's an insult...and you have the right to feel that way. I go through this all the time...all my in-laws try to make it sound as if all 5 of these kids are the same (ie grades, college etc) when the truth is my kids are/were better behaved. Not saying my kids are better (I believe they are but I won't say it to his family) but I do say my kids were much better behaved. They didn't try to break us us, didn't call CPS on us, didn't lie to us or about us, didn't cause all sorts of non-stop drama that his kids did (and still do).
So for you...just smile at MIL and then say that you believe all the kids have special and unique personalities and then leave it at that. Let her have her make believe moments...you know better and by taking the high road your DH will likely appreciate it.
If BP doesn't have the money to see the kid.
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- hotmommytutu
on Aug. 17, 2012 at 9:38 PM