We don't know what to do with my SD, she's obviously hurting
My SD is 8 years old and is a pretty good kid. Lately she's been acting up. She's been rude, talking back, lying. I know part of this is that she's testing her boundaries but I know it's more than that.
She lives with us and sees BM EOWE. She's lived with DH since she was 3. I've been around since she was 4. She'll be 9 in November and she starts school soon.
BM is pregnant with her 3rd child. My SD hates to go over there and has said many times that she wishes BM was dead. She has ADHD so she also goes to therapy EOW, sometimes more if needed. Her SF has hit her and everyone there has been mean to her. We reported the SF but it made it worse so for now we are just letting the therapist know everything and wait until they screw up.
The last two times my SD has went to BM's she has been throwing fits and they bring her home. They can't handle her and they want me to figure out why she's acting like this and make her stop. She doesn't act that way here.
BM has also said that my SD has nightmares everytime she's there where she's screaming bloody murder. My SD does not have those dreams here so I have no clue if it's the truth or not and my SD doesn't ever remember having those dreams.
BM and SF just brought her home a little while ago from their failed attempt at the weekend. My SD doesn't act like this ever with us. They are mad because it's obvious that she doesn't respect them. I get why but she knows it doesn't make it right.
My SD is so screwed up because of them. Her grandparents are alcoholics and one of them is a mean drunk. SF is abusive at times, another grandmother is mean and hurts her feelings all the time now. Even BM is not being nice to her.
I wish BM would just do the right thing and just back off and let her live a normal life.