Hi I am new to this forum and new to having a step daughter around. My boyfriend and I were about to get married when his daughter decided to move in with him/us. Since she has been around she has done nothing but say "I am bored" "I don't want to do that" "Daddy I don't want to" and yelling "daddy" or my name every time we do anything as if to correct us for breathing!. She freaks out if we talk to each other. She wants to know everything we say. When we are in the other room talking she will text her dad or me, just so we are still paying attention to her. She contradicts everything I say. Her dad doesn't do anything. He is trying to be her friend because he doesn't want her to leave.
She was in the same clothes for over 72 hours and I told her to get a shower and change her clothes and you would have thought I was the devil or something! Everytime I try to correct her she freaks out. She doesn't listen to anything her dad says. If she does do what he says after much fussing, then she doesn't complete it. I know she is 12 but I never let my kids do this stuff. So I started speaking up and he told me to quit fighting with her. So now I am biting my lip. And I feel myself wanting to go off in a room by myself because I hate being around someone with such an attitude. I don't feel comfortable in my home now and I don't feel comfortable anytime she is around either. What can I or can't I do? Because she is coming between us and even though I love him...I can't live like this.