Sm told her 5yr ss EXACTLY where babies come from.....EDIT!

[feliciasmith]

I work with a girl that spares no details when it comes to sex with her 4 yr old ds and 5 yr old ss. She told them babies come from a girls vagina and boys have to put their penis into the vagina to make babies. This honestly made me want to puke all over her lol her ss's mom isn't involved but I still think this is out of line for any kids that age.....

what do you think?

EDIT:

I also think it's great she was honest, but for such young children it's too much. The stork or cabbage patch story is nonsense. She could have been just as honest but a little more age appropriate.

Also I didn't argue with her or have any debate because I work with this girl, I left where she was and let another coworker of mine kindly discuss her thoughts to the mom lol

[packermomof2]

Quoting feliciasmith:

So a 4 yr old is expected to understand the inner workings of a womans reproductive system?

Kids don't need to know how sex is done. In my Opinion it should be a conversation for older children around preteen age.

That is your opinion... I have two kids that are older than 4 and 5 now and I started my conversations with them early for when they are their ages.  My son already had a frank discussion with a classmate at 9 years old about why she shouldn't be having sex because she could get pregnant (she was bragging about it at the lunch table), they hear things in school starting at young ages, and if you wait until preteen ages they're already going to have heard crap that isn't true. 

My son will be a 4th grader this year and my daughter a Middle Schooler - why would it be a good idea to wait until my 11 year old hit 11 or 12 to talk to her when I know other kids are out there giving bad information?

I'd rather start early than late because I know how kids are and the ones who don't get the talks at home usually end up being the ones who are passing untruths to the kids at school.

So, good luck with your plan to try to shield your kids.  I wish you all the best.  Because my facts about other kids giving false information actually trumps your opinion that kids should wait until it is too late.

[chanizen]

Whatevs.

I think being that explaining how sexual organs work is no different than explaining how the stomach or heart works.

What is your fear in all this? Why does sex disgust you so? Why shouldn't a girl know how her body works?

I believe in telling my kids the truth about their body. I would not tell
my step kids unless bm wasn't involved.

Quoting feliciasmith:

So a 4 yr old is expected to understand the inner workings of a womans reproductive system?



Kids don't need to know how sex is done. In my Opinion it should be a conversation for older children around preteen age.

Quoting packermomof2:

I did that with my kids around that age.  They asked the questions and I answered honestly.  No point in doing it any other way.

Babies don't grow in bellies either...

[packermomof2]

Quoting GlockMom:

No, the grow in a uterus. Packer I HATE people explaining this stuff to kids and using nicknames for body parts.

I also answer questions correctly when asked. Me and my daughter started where babies come from talks when I was pregnant with her brother. I didn't lie to her. She asked questions way earlier than DS. He is 10 next month. I have a feeling me or DH will have to sit down and just have the talk with him soon. He still hasn't questioned much. Things has asked about I have explained accurately.


I hate it also.  I feel if kids ask they are ready to know you should answer honestly.  It isn't like you're explaining orgasms and that sex is for pleasure also at that age... but proper names and the mechanics of it?  Not something that should be kept secret - that only makes it more intriguing.

[LucyHarper]

I don't see whats so gross about it. Personally, I wouldn't give as many details, but she chooses to give a more straight forward honest answer. Its not going to hurt them and they will find out anyway, so whats the huge deal. I found out when I was five from a kid on the playground, didn't ruin my life or make me have sex super young or anything. I just said "ew, icky" and went back to my normal five year old life. 

[marinenonstop]

In nyc they are beginning to do sex ed in kindergarten.

[tlw4mealwaz]

It's really sad that our children can't just be children because of our hyper-sexualized culture in America. :( If my children ask, I will be honest with them, but I do think that this kind of conversation should be age-appropriate, child-led, and not overloaded with information that will intrigue them into experimentation, which I have seen happen. JMO

Quoting packermomof2:

Quoting feliciasmith:

So a 4 yr old is expected to understand the inner workings of a womans reproductive system?



Kids don't need to know how sex is done. In my Opinion it should be a conversation for older children around preteen age.

That is your opinion... I have two kids that are older than 4 and 5 now and I started my conversations with them early for when they are their ages.  My son already had a frank discussion with a classmate at 9 years old about why she shouldn't be having sex because she could get pregnant (she was bragging about it at the lunch table), they hear things in school starting at young ages, and if you wait until preteen ages they're already going to have heard crap that isn't true. 

My son will be a 4th grader this year and my daughter a Middle Schooler - why would it be a good idea to wait until my 11 year old hit 11 or 12 to talk to her when I know other kids are out there giving bad information?

I'd rather start early than late because I know how kids are and the ones who don't get the talks at home usually end up being the ones who are passing untruths to the kids at school.

So, good luck with your plan to try to shield your kids.  I wish you all the best.  Because my facts about other kids giving false information actually trumps your opinion that kids should wait until it is too late.

[CKuse]

I think that if a child asks, they should be told. If you lie, they will know you lied eventually.. it will just make them lose faith in you and think that you lie, and that lying is ok. I want my child to know she can come to me any time for honest discussions.

[CKuse]

Also, children shouldn't be taught that sex is a dirty thing and that body parts are nasty and things to be ashamed of. That's one way to cause insecurity as they age.

[Ms.Gwen]

Im all for honesty

[chasinrainbows]

I'm sooooo glad my 7 year old daughter doesn't know about sex. She knows her body parts and a lot about babies (coming from an egg etc) but I didn't feel the need to explain sex. She also knows about "bad touches". Still didn't feel the need to explain sex. To each their own. Childhood doesn't last long to begin with.