this , people will talk no matter what. and the people that really matter to you know the truth! if someone says something to you just look them in the eye and say really that's amusing and walk away! (i know how fd can be men talk more than women and the women can be catty just ignore it .)
Quoting thedathree:
I had 2 kids by the time I was 19 and been on my own since 18. This is really for her dad to worry about if he choses to. Not you. Id let the two of them work it out on their own. Remove yourself and let it be known what choices your husband make in regards to his daughter are his. He's a grown man and doesn't need your permission to do shit so you're not to blame. Also people will talk shit no matter what. This week itss you next week it will be someone else. I like to say my name must taste damn good bc its always in someones mouth. They dont care about you or your family. They wouldn't care if you couldn't pay your electric bills or buy groceries. Why should you care about their opinion?They really have no way to know what exactly is going on so how could their opinion even be intelligently formed? They are just nosey!
I too live in a small town and talk does go around faster than the internet! I have my own girls (22 and 18) and his 3 (two girls 22 and 17) and his son (age 20). I am still lied to, lied about, and it sucks. But...this is the BIG thing pay attention....I did the best I could with what was handed to me. I can look myself in the mirror every morning and know I did the right thing. I have no regrets. Living in a small town the locals knew all about the BM (addict and alcoholic) and her bad behavior. They also knew about the skids and their bad behavior. Had one woman ask me if the 17 yr old SD was still as mean now as when she was 7. I busted out laughing. Another woman asked me if the 22 yr old SD was still a trouble maker. The think is you only have to live up to your expectations...no one elses. Those Skids of yours don't care about anyone or anything except themselves and their anger and bitterness. Don't let it poison you too. It seems that there are alot of skids that once they reach legal age get really hateful. I've read so many posts and heard from friends that after they hit legal age they give the dad an ultimatum - her or me/us. That's just alot of childhood issues and BM mind control at work. Find a constructive way to handle your hurt and disappointment, get counseling and then move on. Don't let their toxic behavior ruin your life. Their problems are theirs. When they were underage you tried to help. Now they're adults and their issues are their responsibility not yours. Gotta move on sweetie...Good luck and I'll pray for you
My husband and I are the victims of vicious lies so I understand completely.
Sure. I live in a small town too, and people do like to talk. However, a teenager's word is rarely taken at face value (especially over time) unless other people have a reason to believe it might be true. I suggest you look at the ways you are acting that might be leading them to believe her lies. The more you play into the "How DARE she say that about me!", the more people will believe it.
Quoting Zee08:
I do live in a small town and they love to talk its just getting old :(
Chores- how much is too much.
- Zee08
on Aug. 21, 2012 at 9:55 AM