DH and I were talking, we are meeting with BM in 2 weeks to try to come to an agreement to present to court regarding visitation, CS, and taxes. The last time they could not agree before court and the judge gave a visitation schedule that is not working for any of us. Visitation we have already kinda ironed out and will double check when we meet.
CS: DH is willing to end CS. BM will be 100% responsible for YSS, DH will be 100% responsible for OSS. Currently under split custody DH is suppose to receive around $250/ month since BM claims to make so much more than DH and DH pays for insurance. DH will agree to no CS if BM pays her arrears and continues to pay the current CS until she is able to get insurance for YSS, once we remove YSS from our insurance BM CS will end.
Taxes: DH is willing to drop the contempt case/ tax fraud for BM using both SSs on her 2011 taxes after DH was awarded the tax exemptions by the judge if BM will agree for DH to claim YSS for 2012. After 2012, BM can claim YSS, DH will only claim OSS. It will be made clear that if we go to file our taxes in 2012 and are told YSS has already been used, our attorney will file a tax fraud claim with the IRS and let them deal with BM. BM is already aware that she violated federal tax law by using SSs for EIC when she did not qualify for the credit and it is our choice to settle in family court or to contact IRS, unless she chooses to report herself...
Does this sound fair?