should I be upset?

[dukegirl01]

My DH's ex girlfriend just got married. Just found out my DH's bestest, nearest, dearest friend was invited and went. I couldn't figure out why he would go? But it also tells me he's been in contact with her, to be invited!
She walked out on my DH & their son when my ss was 1 yr. She had no contact with either for months! My DH almost lost everything because of ex. She has caused DH pain and she has caused me pain. Why would my DH's best friend knowing this , go to her wedding?
In the past my DH has told me, if anything ever happened, I should go to him and should trust him. Needless to say, I do not trust him anymore. I said to DH becareful what you say to your friend, being that they must still communicate, he may say anything to her!
I couldn't beleive that his best friend would even give her the time of day! My DH has been very defensive about it and mad at me ! I'm not trying to be such " a girl" but, where's the loyalty?

[Ms.Gwen]

I wouldn't be mad or upset but I would be cautious. Have you confronted this friend about it yet?

[ec_mom]

People stay in contact for various reasons. Be cautious of what you say around him, but don't cut him out...you'll look bad.

[dragonfly06]

 Guys think differently. Since your dh doesn't mind, I suggest you let it go.

[DDDaysh]

Well...  there are two sides to every story.  Maybe he just knows more of both sides and while he's loyal to your husband, he may not view everything BM did through the same lenses.  

And it could even be alot more innocent.  Haven't you ever heard that you should keep your friends close but your enemies closer?  Maybe he's just being a spy in enemy camp, so to speak.  

If your DH isn't worried about it, I don't think you should freak out.  

[CoochieLibre]

I don't think there's anything wrong with friends being friends with the ex.

[AnneHicks]

bump

[nmaxwell816]

Agree

Quoting CoochieLibre:

I don't think there's anything wrong with friends being friends with the ex.

[soonergirl980]

I think it's really none of your buisness that is between your DH and his friend.

[nmaxwell816]

Dh should deal with the friend

[leegirl_jm]

Maybe DH is feeling betrayed and so explains his defensive behaviour. I think you were right to caution him about the friend, let him know you no longer trust this person and leave it at that.