I don't get why people would want to be mean to children. My SD is going through hell every time she goes to BM's. Luckily she only has to be there EOWE. The last two times she threw a huge fit so of course they brought her home. If she's not perfectly behaved and won't listen to them it's my fault. She listens to DH and I just fine. She's a normal 8 year old girl that just happens to have some issues.
Basically BM and SF think it's my job to make her listen to them and respect them. I taught her to respect adults so it's not my fault that she doesn't listen to them. I wouldn't either with the way they treat her.
Her SF has in the past couple of months told her she's: fat, ugly, looks like a boy and that her haircut is ugly.
BM has done some equally bad things. She dragged her up the stairs by her arm while she was throwing a fit. They are always trashing us right in front of her. She hates being there. There have been so any times where she has begged and cried for me not to take her there.
I can't do anything about any of it either. We have a parenting plan so she has to go there.
She has a therapist that she sees EOW. The therapist reported everything that had happened earlier this year and nothing came of it. Well unless you count them treating my SD even worse.
My SD is a great kid and I've been raising her with DH since she was 4. She almost 9 now and minus BM's influence she's doing great. I just wish they would see what they are doing to her. There is only so much I can say to make her feel better.
She already wishes BM was dead. I've lost count how many times she's said that.