Tonight was meet the teacher night for DF's DD's school. She's going into first grade. I had posted here before about how BM didn't want DF to go to meet the teacher night, you might remember it.
So I went with DF because BM was bringing her boyfriend anyway so we figured what the heck. We went in with the custody papers that state that DF has joint legal custody. So we get to the classroom and the registration card is laying on the desk filled out so that if the children's parents need to make corrections they can. DF looks at the card and BM has filled it out. DF is not mentioned ANYWHERE on it. Under father's information she has put her BOYFRIEND'S information and didn't put him anywhere under emergency contact or anything, under the question who has legal custody? there is a spot to circle "natural parents" "mother" or "father" and she has just circled mother. So we all hang out in the room and meet the teacher and when his DD gets done with the classroom scavenger hunt BM and her bf start to go and his DD goes with them because they still have 20 minutes until he picks her up for his parenting time. and then BM sees that DF and I are staying in the classroom. she asks DF isn't he coming and he says no he would meet them at her house to pick up his DD. She looks pissed but doesn't say anything.
After she left DF explains to the teacher that he has joint legal custody of his daughter and rights to reasonable parenting time. He tells her that he wants to make changes to the card to include his information and change the legal custody status. She is understanding and tells him to go ahead so he does all that and also asks her to send him any notes, progress reports, report cards, etc. She takes his information and said that she will keep him updated on everything. Then he goes to the office and has them make a copy of the CO and has them put his name in the computer under emergency contact because he was nowhere in the system and also makes sure that since they have the CO that BM can't come in and take his name off anything. So we go to leave the school and BM calls DF's cellphone and starts in on him "what are you doing there?? I heard you were in the office. what could you possibly need to talk to them about? you're acting shady, I'm on my way back to that school to find out what you're doing" He was like "I'm on my way to the apartment to pick up DD". So we get to the apartment and BM puts their DD back in the car and proceeds to yell at DF again and says she's going back to the school to see what he's done and he told her what he did and she was like "they don't need to send you anything, I can give you progress reports and information, you dont need to be talking to them without me there" This went on for about 10 minutes before she finally gave him his DD. We took her out to eat and then were driving to the park when lo and behold who do we see coming from the school but BM. grrr... that woman is a piece of work. I told DF I thought he was wrong, even though he wasn't raising his voice and she was, for even entertaining her argument when their DD was right next to them in the car. But I just can't believe that woman. That she would put her boyfriends info in the father spot? and that she thinks DF can't talk to the school without her overseeing the convo? omg... she is so psychotically controlling.