I pretty much stick to the idea of "not my kid, not my problem". I take care of my SD and provide for her in the same ways I do for my DDs. I ask all the girls to be respectful to everyone in the house and to clean up after themselves. Other then that, SD is not mine and therefore not my problem. I am just a "babysitter" when she is here. I dont tell her to shower or go to bed. I do tell her to pick up after herself and put away her laundry.
Here is where the problem comes in, because there always has to be a problem. She showed up at my house with lice this summer for visitation. It was the first week of June. We had her for two weeks so I treated her hair and my DDs hair too. She went home for two weeks and came back with it again. My DDs got it from her again. I treated all their hair and she went back home. We told BM that she needed to keep picking the eggs out of her hair until they were gone and treat her hair in a week. She was home for 3 weeks and her mom didnt do it. She came back to my house on AUG. 17 with lice again. I didnt know she had it until the next night. By then my DDs already had it again. They have long thick hair. I treated my DDs hair on Sunday morning and SD refused to have hers done saying her mom was going to do it. It will be two weeks this weekend and she still hasnt had her hair done and she is comming for the weekend!!! Daddy told her if she didnt have her hair done before she gets here he will do it. She had a fit because she had highlights put in her hair last Sunday and says treating her for lice will ruin her new color! WTF!!! I cant keep treating my DDs hair every two weeks with chemicals and I keep them apart all weekend.
This is quickly becoming my problem. What can I do about it?
Dad told her he is going to treat her hair. If she has a fit, let him deal with the fit. He needs to treat her hair. Do you think he will?
Quoting yesmaam:Who the hell did her highlights with lice?
I was wondering that too.
Unfortunately I don't think there is anything you can do about BM not doing anything. If she isn't treating SD then she prob isn't treating her home either and that means they now have an infestation in the house. This is a serious health issue. One solution: I have seen at Brookshire Brothers (also sold at walgreens) a new product that is like a gel that you put in the hair and let it harden and then rinse it out. It is supposed to kill the lice and the eggs. It can also be used as a prevenitive measure. It's called "Lice Ice" and the pharmacist said that it works pretty well if used correctly. You might try doing that on the first night that SD is over (on all the kids). At least that might stop the lice from being in your house.
By the time they get here on Friday, due to travel time, it will already be about 9pm. She shares a room with my girls and wont have her hair done until Sat. morning some time. Also, he is color blind. He will do her hair but he needs my help to see all the eggs to pick them out. So, here I am getting drug in to her mothers neglect. She needs to step up and care for her kid.
Instead of using the rit products you can use coat hair root to tip with mayo and a shower cap all night. Then pick the lice and eggs out. It shouldnt mess with the color. I would warn bm that lice infestations are a health issue and that she could be reported to cps for it.
You can let the girls sleep in the Lice Ice so it might actualy be ideal for your situation. Just rinse it out in the morning.
The highlights were done by her cousin. She is a professional and did it from home.
He talked to BM directly right on our front porch when she came to get the child. She said she would do something about it. He doesnt go thru the child to tell Bm whats going on, just asks the child if its been done.
SD will be 12 Sept. 26.
Quoting yesmaam:
Who the hell did her highlights with lice? Damn now I'm all itchy!! Yep, I agree with daddy, chop it off.
What does BM say, or is BF just communicating through DD?
How old is DD?
I really hate to point this out but, it may be your house that is the one that is the queen mary here. There is no hairstylist out there who will give highlights to someone who has bugs. And it is impossible to give highlights to someone without noticing them. (unless she is being pulled through a cap)
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- housemommyto2
on Aug. 30, 2012 at 10:47 AM