I pretty much stick to the idea of "not my kid, not my problem". I take care of my SD and provide for her in the same ways I do for my DDs. I ask all the girls to be respectful to everyone in the house and to clean up after themselves. Other then that, SD is not mine and therefore not my problem. I am just a "babysitter" when she is here. I dont tell her to shower or go to bed. I do tell her to pick up after herself and put away her laundry.
Here is where the problem comes in, because there always has to be a problem. She showed up at my house with lice this summer for visitation. It was the first week of June. We had her for two weeks so I treated her hair and my DDs hair too. She went home for two weeks and came back with it again. My DDs got it from her again. I treated all their hair and she went back home. We told BM that she needed to keep picking the eggs out of her hair until they were gone and treat her hair in a week. She was home for 3 weeks and her mom didnt do it. She came back to my house on AUG. 17 with lice again. I didnt know she had it until the next night. By then my DDs already had it again. They have long thick hair. I treated my DDs hair on Sunday morning and SD refused to have hers done saying her mom was going to do it. It will be two weeks this weekend and she still hasnt had her hair done and she is comming for the weekend!!! Daddy told her if she didnt have her hair done before she gets here he will do it. She had a fit because she had highlights put in her hair last Sunday and says treating her for lice will ruin her new color! WTF!!! I cant keep treating my DDs hair every two weeks with chemicals and I keep them apart all weekend.
This is quickly becoming my problem. What can I do about it?