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Finalization of parenting plan do you agree or what would you change?

Posted by on Aug. 30, 2012 at 8:32 PM
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This is SO New parenting plan: Kids to go to our school (transportation)  at start BM Drops off  and end of day SO drops off they are to be with SO M-F (3pm-6pm), which allows SO to help with homework and provide care that bm cannot afford for after Care(last year she had a problem with paying for it even though she is on stater assistance and yes SO was paying CS and has been since 2009 when they broke up),                      Weekends: So gets them 3 weekends a month and                                                                                         Holidays are odd and even. except Mother's day and her bday...

Summer /winter breaks Kids will live with SO full time and weekends(F-SUn 6pm-6pm) with BM(we did the 2weeks on and off and It did not work for BM, she was constantly asking for us to take the kids if we could not either her mom or her bro or friends would have them)

REason we are asking for the Kids to come to our school because BM has had issues with kids at school and has not addressed them. 6yr cannot recognize letters in the alphabet, count to 100, or recognize mom,dad,dog,cat.., hold a pencil correctly, he threated a kid at school over a toy and other issues and our school offers various of programs that help with these issues up to date Bm has refused everything we have offered, with no reason. there has been other issues where kids do not want to be here because SO disciples(takes things away like activities. ect) and BM does not becasue wants to be parent who allows certian behavior to go on

SO has court next week and he was wondering how does he address the court without pointing fingers?

by on Aug. 30, 2012 at 8:32 PM
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Ms.Gwen
by on Aug. 30, 2012 at 9:08 PM
This is a crazy schedule. If the kids are going to be at school in your district and with you after school until 6... Why not ask for full physical custody and joint legal? Then give BM 3 weekends a month and all the holidays. Then your DH can really help them financially and with school. If the kids are having trouble in school than a Consistant weekly schedule will help immensely. All this shuffling around isn't going to help kids stay organized!? I predict lost homework, misplaced backpacks, mom showing up late and kids going to bed late.. Etc.
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jsr87
by on Aug. 30, 2012 at 9:31 PM
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The child is delayed because BM isn't parently correctly, it's impossible not to point fingers. Act quick and get full custody before it gets worse.

In 8 years, my SS's BM never got him glasses, only took him to a dentist once (he has free health/dental) or had his intestinal issues addressed. He had to repeat a grade because of her shitty parenting. Now he is finally on the right track, in advanced classes, but her death grip won't loosen up.

angelmommy2806
by on Aug. 30, 2012 at 9:39 PM

I agree with Gwen. That sounds like a lot of back and forth.

LOVLYLOVEKGS
by on Aug. 30, 2012 at 10:05 PM

He opt to have her have them as soon as she is off work. the Kids stay in after care until 6pm anyways even on her days off or whenshe is off early so she won't have to deal with them. bm won't go for that because she doesn't want to lose CS.Mom shows up late sometimes anyways or we just end up keeping them since she has to work past 6 but can't get them til 9

Quoting Ms.Gwen:

This is a crazy schedule. If the kids are going to be at school in your district and with you after school until 6... Why not ask for full physical custody and joint legal? Then give BM 3 weekends a month and all the holidays. Then your DH can really help them financially and with school. If the kids are having trouble in school than a Consistant weekly schedule will help immensely. All this shuffling around isn't going to help kids stay organized!? I predict lost homework, misplaced backpacks, mom showing up late and kids going to bed late.. Etc.


LOVLYLOVEKGS
by on Aug. 30, 2012 at 10:08 PM

In the state of WA if the parent is not a drug addict or physical harming child they perfer to kids be 50/50, so hopefully everything he has  as evidence will be heard in court

Quoting jsr87:

The child is delayed because BM isn't parently correctly, it's impossible not to point fingers. Act quick and get full custody before it gets worse.

In 8 years, my SS's BM never got him glasses, only took him to a dentist once (he has free health/dental) or had his intestinal issues addressed. He had to repeat a grade because of her shitty parenting. Now he is finally on the right track, in advanced classes, but her death grip won't loosen up.


LOVLYLOVEKGS
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 7:45 PM

BUMP!

jessiesluv
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 9:06 PM

How far does bm live from you all?

jessiesluv
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 9:07 PM

Why not do a week on/ week off schedule?

jessiesluv
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 9:07 PM

And on bm's weeks, dad picks kid up from school, bm picks kid up from dad. That's the same as her going to the daycare.

LOVLYLOVEKGS
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 9:38 PM

2.1 mile

Quoting jessiesluv:

How far does bm live from you all?


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