Long story short... My husband hated his ex and rightfully so. I came into the pic and worked my ass off to be the voice of the children. Over 2 short years I have a good friend in his ex wife and they are now working together to raise our children. I AMA divorced mom of three myself and raised my children w/o a father/husband which allows me to be tough on my step kids parents. Advice to fellow step parents Be a voice for the children wrapped up on the shit. The adults feelings don't matter The children do. Give no opinion and take only the side of the child. Remember they see the world from three feet off the ground Ur view as an adult is much different and they won't see it from ur viewpoint for many years. Hey step parent. If u cant or won't get our knees to understand them, get out of the relationship. Ur not worthy of them. If u get on ur knees and the kids push u over. Grow a backbone be tough in a loving way or get out. Children of divorce need extra.
on Aug. 31, 2012 at 3:36 AM