BM was adamant about DH not having any "sleepovers" with members of the opposite sex when they separated & divorced. ADAMANT. Made a big deal about it. Demanded we not even spend a night together, nevermind live together, when he had the kids until we were married. We followed the divorce decree and never had one single "sleepover" until we married. I know she would have tried to keep the kids from him if we had moved in together. The kids were 1 & 3 at the time that she was adamant about no overnights. Not that we should have done it or that it would make it okay but--they were too young to even have known the difference if we had a "sleepover" and it would mean nothing to them, they wouldn't remember it now.
Well, she's just her boyfriend move in with her (she's been pretty much trying to hide it also)...........and that's supposed to be okay because it's her? The kids are now 12 and 14-a time where kids are very, very impressionable, especially about relationships, etc. Yes it has been over 10 years BUT she has held my DH to the divorce decree TO A "T" for the past 10+ years. Everything applies to him, nothing applies to her. It has been in very recent times that she still holds him to every word in that decree. And it has also been in recent times that she has taken the kids out of state ON HIS WEEKEND after he told her "no I cannot switch weekends this time, we have plans this weekend".
Would you pursue her with contempt of Court on the "no overnights unless married" stuff or would you just let it go and why?