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Bm called the other day and I didn't know the number so I answered it. She demanded to talk to SD. I said No, that BF had to be here when she talked to her. She told me that it was wrong for me to keep her from her child and I had no right. My answer to that was tell me one thing about your child. When was she baptized..into what faith..in what church? When and what kind of surgery has she had? Where does she go to school? What is her teachers name? What is her favorite subject? What position does she play and in what sport? What team is she on? Who is her best friend? Anything!? Tell me anything that she has told you, that I have posted or told you! Anything that any of my friends or family could tell me about her! She couldn't! I told her that until she took a little more interest in being a mom to her oldest child then she could live by the rules that BF set forth since that is what the court papers say! I let her know she would be getting a letter from our attorney about the situation and that if she had a problem with any of this we would be happy to meet her in front of a judge! But that until a judge changes the court order she would follow the rules the BF set forth!
So she calls tonight and it is on her mothers phone so my SD answers it thinking it is Grandma. She starts in on her and I can hear it across the room. SD tells her God Bless and hangs up. I have to say I was proud. She showed alot of courage. She crawled up in my lap and cried until she fell asleep. I called the bio Grandmother back and let her know that our number was changing and she would not be getting it. If she wanted to talk to SD she could call BF and that thanks to her allowing BM to pull her crap her grandbaby cried herself to sleep. She tells me that it is all my fault! That I am the problem! I tell her it is no wonder BM can't take responsibility for her actions. It truly floors me. So I get to call the phone company on Monday and change the number! Whoopie! But I have managed to block her everyway else! The only way to get to SD is through BF! My job is done!!
Anyway we are taking her to the therapist and it is helping, our pastor came over and we had a wonderful talk. So we are going to keep it civil and just let God handle it. and our lawyer. Thank you all for the wonderful advise! I don't discuss this with many people in my life due to not wanting to embarrass or hurt SD.