I am the step mom to a 16 year old daughter. She is her fathers only child and her mother who was estranged from her by her own choice passed away last year due to being an alcoholic. For the last seven years I have had to let my husband be the one who sets the limits for her. Problem is he sets none. The one thing I did make him agree to was to make her supply her facebook password She did but every other month she changes it and does not tell us. The last time she did this I took her computer while she was spening the weekend at her boyfriends. (I do not approve) when she gave us the new one I checked he messages about a week later and found she refers to me as a bitch and she stated she wishes her grandmom woulld die. My husbands mom is with us and due to limited space she is staying in her room. She has stage 4 lung cancer and probably will not live more then another 3 months. I was saddened that she would say something so mean. I have never treated her bad I have only tried to set some boundries. Now she will not talk to me she acts like I don't exist. What should I do?