Would you take this as blowing off visitation? Or maybe something happened?
BM and I have been texting quite a bit since last Thursday or Friday. She came to me about the issues her husband's at work and how he has applied elsewhere. Also how her living arrangements are not that good right now. I spoke with the person hiring at the place SF applied at because I am friends with him, they're still interviewing but said his interview was favorable so I also threw in a good word for SF. I do know he is a hardworking guy. The next day, I heard about a friends of mine needing to rent out his apartment, which happens to be right in front of the development DH and I bought our house. I gave BM all the information for it and she said she would follow up on it. I am trying to help them because it benefits my SKs, BM knows that which is why I believe she comes to me with these things. This is no where near the 1st time she has done this and I have helped where I could.
Let's jump back a couple weeks ago. BM is allowed 2 hours with the kids on BM's birthday. DH and I spoke and agreed since BM is not seeing them much, we can offer a full day thing. So I extended that offer to her, she was very happy. I asked if we can get the hours set and she wanted to wait. Well, BM's birthday is this week. I have been trying since Sunday night to get the final arrangements with her done, especially since DH is going to be out of town now and its only going to be me. The other kids have some activities on Saturday I need to get them into town for. So I am going to be juggling a lot since I will also be dropping DH off. I have not heard back from her at all. I don't know what to do at this point. Do I continue to try to make arrangements? Do I let her contact me to make arrangements? Part of me is worried something is wrong because we were communicating up until Saturday afternoon but then again I am worried she's going to fall into her old habits and just blow this visitation off. The thing is, she hasn't missed one visit since we went to once a month earlier this year. Prior to that, she was missing at least half of her visits. Opinions/ suggestions?
Oh, I know some will have opinions on me helping them out and putting in a good word for SF but please try to remember, I am more concerned about visitation this week. As long as BM needs it and my SKs are minors, I will continue to help them out. Its not my SKs fault the situation they're in. Right now BM's living arrangements 6 adults and 4 children in a 3 bedroom house. It would definitely benefit my SKs to have someplace to sleep or do things when they have visitation with BM. SF working a full time job with better pay would benefit them compared to the part time just above minimum wage job he currently has.