Hi, I am new here. I looked through several pages of posts to see if anyone may be in a similar situation but didn't see anything. I posted a brief background in the introduction forum and I will just expand a little here.
I am 34, and have been infertile my whole life but was officially diagnosed with unexplained infertility when I was 26. I was married from age 23-29. My ex-husband was a good person, just not the right one for me. I met my soulmate (really, he is) at age 33. We've been together for a year and are getting married in 3 weeks. We've been living together for 3 months.
And...he has four kids - age 19, 12, 10, and 7. The oldest lives with us full-time and the three younger ones are there part-time. I have no problems with his ex and I get along well with the kids. It's all very drama-free.
Going into the relationship, I thought that I had dealt with my infertility (as much as one can "deal" with infertility - I don't think you ever really get over it), but I was wrong. It has been incredibly painful - much more than I anticipated it would be - to have to watch him raise his kids with another woman, knowing that it is something I want very badly, and knowing it is something I will never be able to experience with him. There are big and small reminders of it almost every day.
Is there anyone else going through something similar?