Well, this wknd was pretty awesome! While at a dr appt with DH and BM, he said he was happy that he has two moms! She almost blew a gasket, but she bit her tongue. (He calls me by my first name, btw, because he was told to call me what he's comfortable with) He also specifically requested "Danielle's spiky chicken" for supper. We spent a lot of time together this wknd because DH was pretty sick. DSS only got cranky with me a couple of times, which I handled quickly and w/o blowups! :) He was even "fighting" over me and defending me to my niece. She was joking around about me being mean and he kept saying "that's my stepmom, you better stop" and he grabbed my arm while he was defending me. :)
My sister even commented on how far we've come since I first met him. Knowing how to do this "right" is rough! You want to be close but maintain distance so no one thinks you're trying to be a replacement. Have to be firm but don't want to be seen as the "evil stepmother". Augh!
So glad we had a better wknd!