I need help on how to deal with a grown stepdaughter who is to clingy to dad
I am a new stepmom this year to a 31 yr old who is married and has a son that is 10. He has autism and I find that she tends to use that as a crutch for so many things like being stressed, a filthy house, not feeling well...etc... I also have noticed that she tends to be to clingy to her dad. She is an only child and he raised her on his own from the time she was 12. I understand that it is important to be apart of your childs life but I feel like she takes advantage of that. I have three children, 2 of which are grown and in college and my youngest lives with us (16). I hear his daughter talk about needing a break all the time, wanting to go somwhere and party with her dad to get away from daily life....her son is in school 5 days a week and she doesn't hold a job...she has a break from him and has time for herself. Why am I supposed to be ok with my husband doing things with her all the time? I don't think it is ok to "party" with a bunch of people, who in my eyes are kids....late 20's and 30's. My husband is 55, I am 40.....I don't mind doing things with her but I do not see any need to be with her every weekend, I don't even do that with my kids. We went to a theme park this summer and she bitched because she didn't get to ride the rides she wanted to because she had her son and his cousin.....Hello....I am not a babysitter!! My kids went where they wanted to in the theme park and we met at certain times to check in, we stayed with his daughter the first part of the day and went our way alone after the check in time...I heard about it the next day from her still.....we went to the zoo and she still bitched because we didn't stay with them, asked where we were going and had something smart to say when we went off on our own. What am I doing wrong???? What is wrong with this girl? Is this normal for people or am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? I just want a normal relationship with my husband that doesn't include having to spend every moment he has off with her....What am I doing wrong?