DH has been emailing bm with some concerns about SS behavior and some of the things he has been saying. He has been using foul language, lying, yelling, and he pulled DS ear so hard that his ear lobe tore and bled. BM response was that we have to understand that he is different and may not be the same as our children so we shouldn't get mad at him. DH and I agree, SS is different, but some of the things he does are not normal for a 4 year old... anyways DH suggested to BM that maybe SS need some kind of therapy, counseling, or psych evaluation to see why is acts the way he does (there has been times when neither of our kids are home and he will come to us and say that one of them hit him and pulled his hair even though he is the only one there, amongst many other things). BM was extremely upset about this and said he is too young to be evaluated or go to counseling and that she refuses to do this. Well, SS has been in school for about a month now and he has had several incidents with hitting, lying, and foul language. The school is requesting to speak to all of us regarding a psych evaluation or possible therapy in order to help him with his social skills or else he will have to be dropped from the program because they cannot handle him. We told her about all these issues with us a long time ago and she refused to listen or accept any of what we said, but now SS runs the risk of getting dropped from his preschool program. Why can't some people accept the fact that sometimes what other people are saying might be true?