parents do instead of what mom vs. sm does?
Why is there any debate that SM doing what she does for the kids should be respected or that mom should be grateful for it when the whole reason the kid is at dads house is to see dad and the courts assumed he would be doing the parenting, which includes the tedious stuff as well as the heavy lifting?
Moms are expected to do these things, but it seems on these boards that there are those who feel mom should be grateful there is another woman to do these things for her kid instead of expecting dad to be the equal parent that a lot of SMs claim he is...
So SM cleans and cooks and does laundry, but how does that make her any sort of mother figure? Why is it expected by some SMs that moms should give a rat's behind she does for the kids what a nanny could or housekeeper could be doing and why is is almost expected by these same Sms that mom care that Sm and dad have decided the division of their household chores are split so that the woman does all the cleaning and cooking and look at it like she's doing the kids a big favor?
So, instead of what Sm is doing for the SK's why is there no debate on what SM's husband is doing for the kids when they are in his house instead of what his wife is doing?