I have three step children and we recently got custody of my SO's half brother. His brother is 13 and it sure is a challenge raising him. He has not had contact with his BM since he was 5 except for rare letters she sends. Recently she has gone to prison for prostitution for the 8th time and decided to write him. My SO says we should not give him this letter due to the fact that she always makes promises to him and we have to clean up the aftermath and his attitude goes down hill after reading such letters. I am not sure what the correct decision is to make.
My step childrens BM has been hard for me to deal with. When my SO and I got together it was hard for me because she was constantly calling me names and telling the youngest child who was 4 at the time that its ok to call me names such as "bimbo". Recently I confronted her and told her I am in this for the long run and that these children mean the world to me. The kids have recently started telling me that they love me and giving me hugs. I just dont understand why she feels the need to lie to me about little things. Such as... her car not running (when it does), or her fiance being at work and can not bring the kids to meet me half way (when he doesnt have a job). Why is she doing this?