Here's a sitch...
Say you have a DD or DS and they played school sports. They traveled quite regularly to different towns playing. As a parent, you want to make as many games as you can to support your child/children. Plus you really enjoy watching them play.
Now say that you have a spouse who chooses not to go to those games. But he/she wants you to choose to not go to some of the games because he/she wants you to pay attention to them and spend the time at home with them rather than go watch your child/children play.
As a BP what would you do? Would you go to your child/children's games anyway? Would you compromise with your spouse and choose to not go to some of the games? What if your child/children really wanted you to go watch them play and you were the ONLY parent to ever go to any of their games?