I am at a loss as to what to do and have figured out today that no one understand where I am coming from nor do they want too they just want me to except things they way they are and be happy with it or just tell everyone to go to hell.
My SD has done everything in her power to turn everyone against me for something I did not even start. My DH got upset because he had been asking her for over a 2 months to spend one holiday with us so we could see her and the kids. (in 5 yrs she had only spent one with us the rest with her mom) Well they get into it and all the sudden everything turned on me.
My oldest son and his future wife have been right in the middle of this mess saying they are not in anything yet anything I have said infront of them goes down to her house and some of these things were said to me in what I thought was betweeen me and them and I never took it any farther then that. It has gotten to the point that I am afraid to do or say anything that might upset someone or get taken down to her house. (she has told this part of her family except for my oldest son she wants nothing to do with us) Her father's heart is broken but he told he that he was just not going to put up with her treating me like crap over something that was between them.
But Thursday I had something to my son because my SD has gotten to where she post things on his facebook just to upset me. The first words out of his mouth was if you don't like it don't read it, so I told him that I would just deleted him and there was a few more things I was going to back off on and that just made things even worse. For months now I walk around my own home on eggshells and that is a horrible feeling in your own home. I have to back away if for no other reason then my own sanity but have been told by my son that I am just pushing him away. I am so sick of the drama and fighting, I just want to get away from it because if it is not my SD attacking me, it is someone else in my DH family. (people I have not came face to face with in years). Today it got worse because my DH blow up at me for even talking about things and being as he is the only one that I really have to talk to kind of made me feel like shit. Told me that I just needed to tell everyone to f*ckoff and walk away from them and I just can't see that as a answer.......