We are planning a trip to Michigan for a family wedding at the end of October and knew BM would be working and we didn't want to take SD out of school for 5 days to come with us so My SO asked SD's grandpa (BM's Dad who also watches SD on Saturday's) if he would be available to pick SD up from school and keep her till BM gets off work. BM flew off the hinges saying he should have talked to her first and that SO needs to pay her dad $50 to watch SD. SD's grandpa didn't say anything about being paid and SO isn't against giving him money, he just feels like it's something that needs to be discussed between SO and Grandpa and that part shouldn't have anything to do with BM. I should also mention (according to what she tells us anyway) her dad is paid $400 a month (and yes SO pays child support towards that amount) to watch SD on Saturdays so he is paid pretty well already for how much he watches her. But when SO asked to keep SD two Saturdays ago and she said no because her dad wanted to spend time with her and he feels bad about how much he gets paid and how much he actually watches her but today she says she pays him by the day.
Isn't the important part that SD is taken care of by someone that is both trusted and convenient for BM? Were we wrong for thinking that since it was SO's scheduled time with SD that it is his responsibility to arrange for child care?
I can see where people might think it was wrong but with her it just seems like we are damned no matter how it happens and she just wants something to get upset about.