Need lots of advice, "talking" about getting married and officially becoming the SM
I'd love any advice you may have for me. I'm currently living (in sin :) with my boyfriend, who is a father to 2 boys-5 years and 12 years. We have a good thing going here. I'm also divorced, no kids. Unable to have children. Because of my life experience, I'm extremely grateful to be a part of these 2 wonderful boys lives. I love, care and treat them like my own. Don't get me wrong....there's lots of times where they frustruate us, but I feel that the past 2 years we've formed a solid "family" and my boyfriend and I have good communication when it comes to discipline, etc.
As far as the BM ('s), yes 2 baby mama's.....My boyfriend had his 12 year old during college. Tried to make it work, but it didn't. The 12 year old's mom and him are friendly, amicable and do everything in the best interest for their son. She and I are friendly and share interests. We text, call, and keep in touch for the best interests of her son. We've discussed my role and she's so supportive of my place here in the family.
The "other one", however, is his recent ex, whom left for another man when his child was too young to even remember. She was MIA for 2 years, but this year has become MOTY (mother of the year, it's our code). I'm grateful she's chosen to become more involved for her son's sake, however, she's trying to tear my boyfriend away from his son. They have joint custody, however we have more "hours" as we have him every weekend (thurs-sun). Her recent "shananagan's" have included calling the principal of the school when my boyfriend and I decided to volunteer at the school handing out hot lunches to the entire school. We didn't take him out of school, etc. and it was "our" day. She called and said that I'm "not allowed on the premises" Well....obviously that didn't fly and the principal let us volunteer. She's crazy. And obviously self-conscious about her own roll as a mother.
With all of the crap she's put him and us through, I'd rather her just act in the best interest of her son, leave us alone, and play nice. i don't need drama in my life, I've had enough.
so, my questions to you are....
1. How do I deal with this woman for the rest of my life?
2. How much do I get involved? and what are my rights, legally and morally?
3. Do I sit down with her face to face and have a conversation? And what do I say?
all I want is a peaceful, happy life with these boys....all 3.
Thanks for your support.