This is a way too long story, so I'll give the short version but would be happy to answer any questions. My DH and I have legal guardianship of my DH's daughter's baby boy (less than a year old). We took guardianship because she is mentally ill (on and off meds), living in a mutually abusive relationship (emotional and physical, not the baby's father), their house is filthy and not livable, and the baby was underweight and his doctor was about to contact CPS. His mom has supervised visitation, which we try to limit to our home, for obvious reasons. She doesn't seem very in tune with the baby, or is just lazy, because we constantly have to tell her when he needs a bottle, food, diaper change, etc. She is content to just let him cry or just to hold and try to soothe him, which doesn't work if they have a need that needs to be met. If we intercede and do what needs to be done, she gets upset. NOW, here is the problem I need advice about. She and HER mother want to take the baby several states away for a couple of days to see a friend. I have a HUGE problem with that. For one, we can't be sure that he is going to have his needs taken care of while he's with them. Secondly, this is going to be a "partying" kind of situation and her mother drinks and drives all the time. Doesn't see anything wrong with it. Thirdly, stepD and her mom fight ALL THE TIME -- screaming, physical fights. I can just see them on a multi-hour car drive getting into a fight and wrecking the car. The two of them are peas in a pod. They don't want the responsibility of the baby, but they want to be there for the milestones and holidays and love to show him off to people. So, am I overreacting to them wanting to take the baby out of state?
on Nov. 12, 2012 at 9:39 PM