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Does your SK correct people when they call you their mom?

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 "SD" doesn't call me mom, we came up with our own nicknames for eachother. For the first time today, I had someone call me "mom" to her.  DF and I took her to get her hair cut and DF was reading the newspaper and I was over by "SD"  talking to her and instructing the hairdresser on what we wanted done, what needed tweaked a little.  When the woman was done she turned "SD" toward me and said "let's see what mom thinks" and "SD" just said "ok".  I was a little suprised because I figured "SD" would giggle and be like "that's not my mommyyyy" or something. But she didn't.  And I didn't want to be like "Oh, she's not my daughter" or something because what does it matter to this woman, y'know? I'm never going to see her again, who cares if she knows my relationship to "SD" and if "SD" didn't want to mention it I figured why should I? So I didn't correct her or anything. Did I do something wrong by letting that woman believe "SD" was my daughter?

by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:10 PM
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boysmom5
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 9:49 PM
We've had it come up several times. Generally, none of us correct them. If it doesn't bother my stepsons, I figure it shouldn't bother anyone.
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saywhat2102
by Gold Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 10:08 PM
No he doesn't correct people. He calls me by my first name so we have got some double takes before. Like, hey go give this to your mom and he starts yelling heyyyyyy Brooke!
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luckystars2012
by Gold Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 1:57 AM

No, not really.  We just move on, SS is old enough to understand that its not a big deal and we dont need to share our life stories with strangers lol.  

bizbay
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:19 AM
My kids dont correct. But if the conversation goes more into detail, I do explain in a kind way that im Stepmom. I dont use the term Step-son or daughter when introducing them. They also refer to my DS as brother with no step. My yougest AD doesn't like the term Stepmom, she prefers to call me "My Bizbay", I'm just hers...no label needed.
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Steamedpuddle30
by Hi, my name is... on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:02 AM
I'm brown my dds are brown my skids are white no one confuses us. Lol.

But people do say your parents. My skids say my parents sometimes. (Meaning this home)
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DDDaysh
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:03 PM

 Eh, my little brothers even got tired of correcting people that thought I was their mom.  At first I would indignently explain that I was NOT their mother (I'm only 9 years older than one of them, and even if it's biologically possible with the other one, I didn't want anyone to think I was that kind of girl...) 

But, after a while, it was just too much trouble to bother saying anything to random people we'd never see again. 

Pero1
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:05 PM

DD wouldn't correct either, unless she thought it mattered. Hairdressers or shop assistants don't matter, meaning she wouldn't divulge her private life to them.

If it was the mother of a school friend or similar ... then yes, I think she would, merely to avoid confusion in the future.

Tinkerbellmama
by Platinum Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:23 PM

SD calls me mom, there have been times when it's been necessary for me to explain to doctors or specialists that I'm not her biological mom. But, SD has never corrected anyone about it.

faerie75
by Platinum Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:33 PM

 last night at my sons football game, someone asked ss4 something about "mommy". (me) he didnt say anything but im not sure if he knew what was going on, and i didnt either because im not going to explain it to every stranger i encounter. if he did correct, i wouldnt have been bothered though.

MomGoingCrazy78
by Lindy Lou on Nov. 19, 2012 at 4:49 PM

SD10 has never corrected anyone and I have kinda let her take the lead on that one. If it bothers her, then we'll correct it, but she has told DH and me that it doesn't bother her.  We think it's kinda funny because she is a total opposite of me and we laugh about it- she has blonde hair blue eyes, I have brown hair brown eyes! She does introduce me as her "other mom" though.

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