The question if the moment is about Thanksgiving. SD15's mother died two years ago on the day before thanksgiving (the 24th that year). Her wacky grandparents decided that the day before the holiday should always celebrate her mother's death. They dwell on it to an unhealthy level to the point of calling SD15 by her mother's name. They have basically have made it into a multi day anniversary - it extends from the day before Thanksgiving to whenever the actual date is. SD15 is a mess during this.
The therapist was discussing the holiday with us. We both prefer that SD15 stay in through the anniversary. We feel that even though she would miss the holiday, she is at such an increased risk for negative behaviors she and our family are safer with her in there.
Sorry this is so long... Are we being selfish?