Ss12- dh's with Bm1. Bm1 was married had 1 ss, 1ds, and 1 dd with xsf.
Sd9- dh's with bm2. Bm never married has 2 dds with 2 dif bfs and "sd" with current boyfriennd (bf to her ydd)
Ds8- mine from prev relationship. Dh adopted him 6 years ago.
Ds6 and 4- mine and dhs together. The only 2 siblings on our side with the same bps.
A while back bm1 made a comment comparing the bio relation between ss12 and sd9 (half sibs) to the one between ss and bms ss (step sibs) saying that she could say sd wasnt ss's REAL sister just like with her ss. Um no...totally different. They are half sibs not step sibs like ss and her ss.
Another time bm1 told dh that her ss was her child just like my ds8 is his. Again, no. Dh adopted my ds and bm1 was her ss's sm.
Now i looked at the questionairre bm1 filled out for ss's counseling which he will be attending with dh. She has all the kids listed as siblings (both her bks with xsf, my sd, and my 2 YDSs) except then she has my ds8 and her now xss down as STEP sibs. Wrong on all points. Her xss isnt in the picture at all anymore much less a step sib and my ds8 isnt technically a step brother because dh adopted him. ALL of the others are half sibs.
I know its minor like i said in the beginning, but if shes going to be nitpicky about it and classify them as step or not and compare things to dh the way she has, why call ds8 a STEP brother. I wonder too if she refers to his sibs on our side differently than the ones on her side regularly in an attempt to "belittle" (cant think of the word i really wanna use lol) the relationship with the siblings here. She says she doesnt and that theyr all referred to as brothers and sister. But then, why put it that way on a paper so important? Things that make me go hmmm....