No, I hate it...
It was hard at first because his ODD was 14 when she moved in with us b/c BM couldn't handle her anymore. My ODD was 5, I didn't figure on having a teenager for at least 7/8 yrs. Then I had to deal with MIL who would tell me what a piece of crap BM was. After BM died she became a saint in MIL's eyes then I was the one that was a piece of crap. I raised 6 kids 3 were SK I treated ALL the kids the same and I was the sole parent a lot of the time b/c DH was in the Army at the time. It took several years before the kids even mine realized that they had a good life b/c they had a family that stood by them, fought for them, and loved them. Now all the kids are married with families of their own and really realize that raising a family isn't easy and have told me on several occasions that they don't know how I stayed with their Dad b/c of the way they treated me. I am still introduced as their Step-Mom, but their kids all call me Grandma and all the SK's encourage that.
If i didn't like being a SM-then I wouldn't still be one. i love my skids to pieces-and would never give them up for anything.
I don't have a problem with stepparenting because it comes with no responsibility for me.
So maybe that's the real problem. not so much being a stepmom, but being married to a stupid man.
Quoting grumpyboston:Because my husband is stupid
Quoting QueenBof6:Not a road I would chose for myself again. But while I'm at where in at I will do my best.
I agree with this but would just add "probably" not a road I would take again. I find it really stressful.
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