custody change is NOT always the best option

I didn't always say this about BM in the beginning, though DH and his family did. I was willing to give BM the benefit of the doubt, as I would want someone to do for me. BM is not talkable,at all, what so ever. But then the bruises started, and the stints of SD going 3 days w/o sleep out of fear, and the constant moving, the too small dirty clothes, the list goes on. THEN I started to get WHY they felt this way. In my opinion, who works, who doesn't, who cooks better, who is home more, etc isn't the issue. And I don't want to be SD's mom, I just think she deserves and should have better that BM is willing and/or able to give her.

Well when BM was arrested for truancy issues, I guess that was the big issue that said, "SS would do better with us." Why? Because he'd get to school on time.
Then she was charged with child negligence and endangerment. I guess that was the second issue that told us, "SS would be better with us."
The third thing was something I'd rather not say to strangers, but let's just say BM's idea of "cuddling" with SS wasn't exactly appropriate.
I didn't necessarily want custody to change at all. Neither did SO. But that is what was in the best interest for SS.
I don't know why OTHER SMs on here think it's a way to fix an issue, but for SO and SS, that was answer.
- jlg12678
on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:10 PM