Hi! I am new here and have spent the past couple of days reading over the post and soaking in as much as I can. I am here looking for some advice and tips on how everyone managed to blend their families.
First a little info. I am 31. I have a 7 year old son from my previous marriage. My boyfriend (whom I live with) has a 6 year old son from his previous marriage. My DS lives here with visitation with his dad (usually 3 weekends a month) Boyfriend shares 50/50 visitation of his son. (who I am going to call SS for sake of ease).
We have all lived together since March. There has been some learning and changing on my part. I've had to learn to let go, learn that differing parenting styles are okay, and learn that sometimes, things are just out of my hands.
My main struggle right now is "fairness". DS is here the majority of the time. SS is starting to pick up on that and to him it isn't "fair". My rules are stricter and that's not fair. You name it, it's not fair. My exhusband and I agree on parenting, rules and discipline. Boyfriend and his ex do not. So therefore the change in rules really get SS going at times. It causes big fits, that are stressful to deal with. I'm not willing to compromise on the rules (because we hold both boys to the same standard), but I don't know how to deal with the constant battle from a 6 year old with the rules.
How do you other step moms do it?