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Punishments/Lectures Pt 2-WWYD?!?!?!

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The week before Halloween-there was a situation involving SD11/BM's ss9 and a few of his friends.

It was Friday night-about 11ish at night. I was folding the laundry-sd11 was on her FB showing me a video of her SS (bm's sd13) singing in choir.

SD11 gets a message from this kid-and it says something to the effect of him not wearing any underwear-and he's got a huge boner-then asked SD11 if she's gonna do anything about it and if SHE"S wearing any underwear!

She freaks-and said "kat look at this creep!" She shut her chat off-and I read the messages. It's ss9's friend who has a crush on SD11 but she doesn't care for the kid.

She gets off FB-I call Bm-cell's shut off-nobody's answering her house phone. So I called Dh at work-read him the messages-he said he'll get ahold of BM.

SD was kinda freaked so she goes to bed.

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Saturday after Halloween-BM shows up with SD13 and SD11. Bm had a talk with the boys. (SS9 had friends over-one of them snuck into BM's bedroom and swiped SD11's Ipod and used it to get on FB)

None of them are admitting to sending the messages. So, she contacted the other parents. All the boys are now banned from Facebook for a month. (None of them are over the age of 12) ALong with SD11.

Recently I posted about SD11's suicide attempt....it seems ss9's friends were giving SD11 some shit over the whole ordeal-calling her a snitch...a rat...tattletale etc on top of her classmates teasing her over having to repeat the 4th grade-finally got to be too much for her.

BM came to DH and I admitting she didn't know what to do. I told her to take away the Fb's, disable them. Ban ss9 and his friends from the internet while in her house. And to monitor the kids when they're online at home. (She's got 5 kids sd13,dd11,ss9,ds6 and ydd5) It's rough but it can be done.

MIL thinks i was wrong for interferring and DH thinks I didn't do enough.

What would you do?!

by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 4:31 PM
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Tigress22304
by Ruby Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:58 PM


Quoting lovemyfriend:

facebook....the demise of our society.  I think if BM asks for your opinion...then you did what you can do.  Why didn't DH do more if he thinks more should be done?

his answer was-he's at work-he doesn't know what's going on other then what I tell him.

Therefore since I was there, I should have kept calling BM (remember it's nearly midnight at this point) until she answered.

Tigress22304
by Ruby Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:59 PM
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Quoting saywhat2102:

Oh my gosh! If you don't have a facebook account I will be your friend! We are very rare very rare! Lol ;-)


Quoting lovemyfriend:

facebook....the demise of our society.  I think if BM asks for your opinion...then you did what you can do.  Why didn't DH do more if he thinks more should be done?


I'm tempted to bring you over to the dark side MWAHAHAHAHA

angelmommy2806
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:07 PM
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Bm asked for your advice. If Dh thinks there should be more he needs to speak up.
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Tigress22304
by Ruby Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:10 PM


Quoting angelmommy2806:

Bm asked for your advice. If Dh thinks there should be more he needs to speak up.

exactly-he gave me shit because SD was on FB and it was late.

***let me back up***when the kids first got the computer-he said 1h in the morning 1 h at night per kid. I felt 1h a day per kid was plenty. But he never follows thru with his rules.

SD was being extra helpful-so I let her stay up a little later and she was on Fb with me RIGHT THERE.

He thinks i was wrong for letting her stay up and being on FB-however BM and I gave him ALLLLLL the times he went against OUR rules so he can suck a toe!


lovemyfriend
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:16 PM

I'm sad to say I do...but...I use it only for keeping in touch with family and a few close friends who live far away...But I did notice you're a vegetarian and so am I.  Not quite as rare, but still hard to find others... :)  Everyone gives me crazy looks when I'm not having turkey "even on thanksgiving?!" 

Quoting saywhat2102:

Oh my gosh! If you don't have a facebook account I will be your friend! We are very rare very rare! Lol ;-)


Quoting lovemyfriend:

facebook....the demise of our society.  I think if BM asks for your opinion...then you did what you can do.  Why didn't DH do more if he thinks more should be done?



saywhat2102
by Gold Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:31 PM
Lol:-D girl, you ain't fooling! I have not always been and ohhh myyyy it smells good! But, yes ma'am imma not gonna eat it! :-D


Quoting lovemyfriend:

I'm sad to say I do...but...I use it only for keeping in touch with family and a few close friends who live far away...But I did notice you're a vegetarian and so am I.  Not quite as rare, but still hard to find others... :)  Everyone gives me crazy looks when I'm not having turkey "even on thanksgiving?!" 


Quoting saywhat2102:

Oh my gosh! If you don't have a facebook account I will be your friend! We are very rare very rare! Lol ;-)



Quoting lovemyfriend:


facebook....the demise of our society.  I think if BM asks for your opinion...then you did what you can do.  Why didn't DH do more if he thinks more should be done?





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Tigress22304
by Ruby Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:51 PM


Quoting lovemyfriend:

I'm sad to say I do...but...I use it only for keeping in touch with family and a few close friends who live far away...But I did notice you're a vegetarian and so am I.  Not quite as rare, but still hard to find others... :)  Everyone gives me crazy looks when I'm not having turkey "even on thanksgiving?!" 

Quoting saywhat2102:

Oh my gosh! If you don't have a facebook account I will be your friend! We are very rare very rare! Lol ;-)


Quoting lovemyfriend:

facebook....the demise of our society.  I think if BM asks for your opinion...then you did what you can do.  Why didn't DH do more if he thinks more should be done?



hell if anyone saw the turkey my MIL made last year-EVERYONE would turn vegetarian!! My aunt is a vegetarian-turned me onto some of recipes (quite delish btw) shame DH is too uch of a meat eater to convert.

elisesmom922
by Silver Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:06 PM

At least your BM is smart about it. Our BM wants SD11 to be her "friend", so she let her get a FB there, and even though SD11 lives with Custodial Gma, she can access it anywhere. Something similar happened, but there were pictures involved. Gma about had a coronary, and grounded SD11 from her laptop, Ipod, and the phone for 3 months. Dh was livid and wanted to kill SD11 and the boy.He didn't think it was enough, but had no say really. So now somewhere out there, is a picture of SD11's board flat chest. Smh!

Quoting Tigress22304:


Quoting kkkaaayyyy:

I would of taken a screen shot of the message for proof. I wouldn't allow any child that age have a facebook. It scares me the generation now having phones with internet and such. So many kids being harassed and taunted on fb. I honestly, dont' know what I would of done. I think you did a great job. Hope it gets better for you.

No need for screen shot-BM has full access to all her kids's fb pages. She read all the messages. It's a condition she's got in her house-if they want a social page-she has to have the password.


lovemyfriend
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:09 PM


Quoting Tigress22304:


Quoting lovemyfriend:

I'm sad to say I do...but...I use it only for keeping in touch with family and a few close friends who live far away...But I did notice you're a vegetarian and so am I.  Not quite as rare, but still hard to find others... :)  Everyone gives me crazy looks when I'm not having turkey "even on thanksgiving?!" 

Quoting saywhat2102:

Oh my gosh! If you don't have a facebook account I will be your friend! We are very rare very rare! Lol ;-)


Quoting lovemyfriend:

facebook....the demise of our society.  I think if BM asks for your opinion...then you did what you can do.  Why didn't DH do more if he thinks more should be done?


 

hell if anyone saw the turkey my MIL made last year-EVERYONE would turn vegetarian!! My aunt is a vegetarian-turned me onto some of recipes (quite delish btw) shame DH is too uch of a meat eater to convert.

hahaha awww...poor lady.  I have some super delicious and easy recipes that are meant to have no meat, so the're not like...fake meat or something...He'd probably love them!  Sopa Seca is my favorite right now...its a casserole that is the most delicious thing you will ever eat in your whole life. 

LittleMama2012
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:13 PM
They are not mature enough to handle social media. You are involved because you were there when it happened and because bm went to Dh and you. Mil needs to mind her own business. Why is it her concern?
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