So my stepkids bio mom is 33 and up until last week living in her moms house. She was evicted because about 8 months ago she moved in her bf and his kids w/o asking her mom and now the house is getting destroyed. So since her family cut off paying her bills and giving her $$$ we are the lucky next victims. She is highly nasty and vindictive sending me texts I'm a "dumb b*tch."
Her history is she has never paid any bills. Doesn't work except driving her bf around to his job. They supposedly have no money and are now pursuing us for child support because they are going on emergency tanf here and she is trying to get free housing.
Our custody agreement is 50/50. The last two months we have had then about 2 days a week because of work. Prior to that we had then 5/6 days a week. But because she has filed for tanf, and told them she has them ft, I researched and she can still get support money because she is on emergency assistance. This is really going to cause problems because we are on an extremely tight budget as is.
So because she became homeless we of course took the girls, planning to keep them ft until we figured out was going on. Well the girls are super too-faced and one of them reported to their mom we were taking their biomom to court for full custody. Which was a hypothetical conversation that biomoms mom was really pushing on me. Of course at the times the children were completely on our side because they realize their mom is losing it or so they say. But I should have listened to my inner voice and told the grandma this was not an appropriate conversation in from of them. So my bad.
Then a few days later I was having another hypothetical conversation with Hubby while dropping off Youngest stepdaughter at school. We were conversing if we did indeed apply for custody we'd need to move the girls to a closer school. So youngest stepdaughter reported all of the above to her mom who took them (who knows where since she has no house) and started floading my husbands phone with nasty texts that they are banned from him. Playing games. This has been going on for 3 days now. Which he then turns and yells at me.
How does this homeless can't pay any bills wanting to not grow up child have any say? She's got my husband wrapped around her finger because of her nasty mouth and I'm a "bipolar monster." No I don't have bipolar. If anything I have been too involved and too nice in this situation.
I don't know any other stepmoms who drove 2 hrs to pick up their husbands kids. I don't know any other stepmoms who buy all their stepkids birthday/Christmas presents.
So I've decided with this latest two-facedness I can't be involved with them. This has happened before where they whined to mommy because they didn't like that my dad visited and bought my son a big boy bedroom set. Was I supposed to tell my dad to buy them stuff too?
I'm Ready to leave this situation. The bio mom
Is insane and I haven't even delved into the oldest behavior problems (kicking our furniture).
Please help me! I don't think it's fair I'm getiing yelled at by my husband she can get away with calling me a fucking bitch etc.