You know, if I had known then what I know now, I wouldn't be in this situation. I need advise/tips on how to get dh "engaged" with his kids so I can back off. I have 3 ss's who are 13, 12 and 11. Dh and I have been together 6 years, married 5. When we got together, I was all gung-ho about being a stepmom because bm wasn't doing her job. Now, I see my mistake. Dh expects me to do everything for his kids. He doesn't do a thing at all. For instance, I take yss to his med appts bc dh "doesn't know the way". I went to their parent teacher conferences because dh didn't feel like it. I am seriously thinking he married me (partially) to be his babysitter. :/
He used to be so involved with his kids. Now that he has me to do everything, he doesn't do a thing. And I'm starting to resent it. Like I said, I wish I had known this then so that this didn't happen.
So, what I'm asking is, how do I disengage without dh using the favoritism card?
on Dec. 5, 2012 at 6:29 PM