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Step Parents Rights

Posted by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 6:29 PM
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Do we have any rights?

Somethings in life that need to be done require a legal parent. Have you run into this dilemma? If so what was the case?

And overall how do you feel about our rights or our "Not having any"..??

by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 6:29 PM
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Aurora-Dove
by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 6:31 PM
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I don't think you do legally unless you are their legal guardian. I haven't run into the issue because BM and SO have put me on record as being able to take her to and pick up from school, doctor, extra curriculars, etc. just in case I one of them aren't available and they need me to.

Bensmom98
by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 6:31 PM

Can you be specific?  What is it that is bothering you?

mrscbrown2011
by Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 6:35 PM

DH is the legal guardian...mom has no legal rights right now...I am a SAHM...I do 100% everything for the kids...I have a teenager who needs a permit...I couldnt sign off unless I was a legal parent (understandable), but it got me to thinking and I ran into this website and they talked about the rights of guardians, etc.? There were some who says we absolutely have no rights, but I know each situation is different. Now if the BM was in there lives...then I wouldnt care...

'How does one become a legal guardian? I know I want DH to adopt my son, he dad is non exsiting but if somethjing happens to me I would like him to stay with his family.

 

grumpyboston
by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 6:36 PM
You only have legal rights if you go to court.
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sandeeyo
by Le Bonjour Chat on Dec. 5, 2012 at 6:42 PM
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Quoting mrscbrown2011:

DH is the legal guardian...mom has no legal rights right now...I am a SAHM...I do 100% everything for the kids...I have a teenager who needs a permit...I couldnt sign off unless I was a legal parent (understandable), but it got me to thinking and I ran into this website and they talked about the rights of guardians, etc.? There were some who says we absolutely have no rights, but I know each situation is different. Now if the BM was in there lives...then I wouldnt care...

'How does one become a legal guardian? I know I want DH to adopt my son, he dad is non exsiting but if somethjing happens to me I would like him to stay with his family.

 

You need to ask an attorney those questions.

kristinbugg
by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 7:16 PM
You have no rights, nor should you. The children have a parent, your DH, to take care of anything that requires a legal parent.
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faerie75
by Platinum Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 7:20 PM
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 nope no rights. and i dont mind because they arent my kids. i ahve my own kids and thats enough legal crap i need to deal with. i will help SO out at home and if SO needs me to get them from school in a dire situation and its ok with BM, i will. but they can do all that legal stuff themselves.

Amy1973Potts
by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 7:26 PM
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Glad I dont have any rights. Dont care to have any. Ever. I dont covet one little bit.
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Tinkerbellmama
by Platinum Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 7:41 PM

If your DH is a CP then he can give you legal power of attorney.

We had a huge issue recently when I was trying to make SD's appointment at a local children's hospital. When I told them I was SM they flipped out and almost refused to make the appointment. When I explained that BM isn't consistently in SD's life and that DH works 55 hours a week they finally agreed to let me making the appointment, but they said they'd only keep the appointment if DH and I both showed up with SD. They made DH sign a form giving me power of attorney at their hospital and it had to be notorized.

I have a power of attorney form signed by both BM and DH, whenever SD has an appointment with a new clinic, specialists, doctor, hospital, etc I make sure to bring a copy of it. Other than the above issue, I've never had any other issues. 

luckystars2012
by Gold Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 11:32 PM

Depends on the situation.  

I am named in my SO's custody order as his partner, and as having the rights to handle school, medical, and any other necessary matters for my SO while SS is in our custody.  Which is now all the time, as BM lost SS and her other child several months ago to CPS, and then we got SS.  

But ours was different as we live several states apart, ROFR was not an option, and BM had historically tried hard to stop me from handling anything so much as a haircut or driving to a dental cleaning.  So the judge got tired of her crap and circumvented it by naming me in the CO this way.


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