I am interested in knowing how many ladies on here actually get along with there ex's new spouse's/wives/gf.....i only ask because of my own situtation, which is i am both a bm and a sm. As a bm i have one common child in which i share custody with his father. His father quickly married to a much younger gal that he actually was carring on a affair with when we were still married. She was not the reason for the divorce, in fact i didnt know about her until almost a yr after the divorce. I was told by my ex about her at counciling we were attending. But from the very beginning she was nasty and just plain different. I infact was happy she was with my ex. It meant he would stop trying to get me back. He couldve won a lottery with all the money i have ever dreamt of and i wouldnt go back to him. It took me 7 yrs to get up the courage to leave him. Anyways, needless to say they didnt last but 6mos. until she left him. Now he dates someone else and i get along with her better than i do him...She is amazing to my son. And honestly thats all i ever wanted.
Now as far as being a sm. Thats somewhat stained. We dont hate each other. In fact we knew of each other before, not friends but we had common friends. We actually had a conversation about being mature and showing everyone how its done....lol....We are often at the same events as my ss has basketball tournaments we all attend almost every weekend. And its not anything like she led me to believe it would be. She avoids me and sometime even makes teenage drama at the games. I ignore it because I am not interested in drama at all. Problem is it can be very uncomfotable for the skids. Am i the only one who deals with this type of immaturity from the bm'S/or ex's sidnificant others?? Just curious....lol
btw....sorry i am not up on my cafemom lingo yet. I am still new... :0)
thank you for your time