BM has a really bad habit of attempting to "brainwash" (for lack of a better word) SD, except DH has primary custody, so the things BM tries don't really work since she doesn't have consistent contact with SD. It's just hard to see the bad emotions SD goes through. Like, she KNOWS that she's supposed to be happy to go see BM, but she never is. She KNOWS that she's supposed to want to do nice things like get BM a birthday or Christmas present, but she never really wants to.
We've had SD with us for 3 straight weeks due to the holiday and then DH's normal weekend, so this weekend will be SD's first weekend going to BM's in three weeks. She's NOT happy about it. I keep trying to get her excited, telling her about all the fun she'll have with her sister and seeing her grandparents, but her normal reaction is "yea" and then will walk out of the room. So I've stopped trying.
Today she starts talking about how her mom is almost done with school. BM has told SD over and over again that once she finishes school she's moving to our area (currently lives over an hour away). I think BM has been telling SD this to get her excited. BM has also told SD that once she moves to our area that SD will live with her, and not DH. We've already talked with SD that that is NOT happening anytime in the future. But I think SD is worried about BM moving to our area. I HIGHLY doubt that she will, but I asked SD if she wants her mom to move to our area and her response was "No" and then to walk out of the room. I just hate seeing her so conflicted.