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So SS came over tonight. DH thought he was off work but they called him in. He and SS went to the Christmas tree arm and cut down our tree and found out on his way home he had to work. So he left SS with me. Well bm pitched a fit and wanted SS to call so I had him call her. And she was on the phone saying how DH was stupid and this and that and that she was gonna have to call an get on him for having to work. All the while SS is defending DH saying he didn't know he had to work and that he can't magically come home from work right now. It's just sad. Especially since she goes on and on about how she doesn't talk bad about DH to SS when she outright called him stupid and said other things too. I heard her on speaker phone. Vent over.
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by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 8:34 PM
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Tinkerbellmama
by Platinum Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 10:16 PM


Quoting packermomof2:

I think it is stupid that you need a CO to tell you to let the oP have the time with the kid whenever whose time it is can't be there... All he had to do was tell mom his job called him in and ask him if she wants to come get the child and that he'll pick him back up when he is done or later on.. 

See, this I don't understand. If it's dad's time with the kid, and he gets called into work for a few hours, why should the kid automatically go back to BM?

Amy1973Potts
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 5:24 AM
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Amen. Not all children have to magically go back to a parent the instant the other one leaves for whatever reason, barring ROFR. Which is ridicilous anyway. Just a paper pissing contest when adults refuse to be adults and behave responsibly

Quoting Tinkerbellmama:



Quoting packermomof2:

I think it is stupid that you need a CO to tell you to let the oP have the time with the kid whenever whose time it is can't be there... All he had to do was tell mom his job called him in and ask him if she wants to come get the child and that he'll pick him back up when he is done or later on.. 

See, this I don't understand. If it's dad's time with the kid, and he gets called into work for a few hours, why should the kid automatically go back to BM?

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lnr187
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 7:00 AM

 what is ROFR?

Quoting Amy1973Potts:

Amen. Not all children have to magically go back to a parent the instant the other one leaves for whatever reason, barring ROFR. Which is ridicilous anyway. Just a paper pissing contest when adults refuse to be adults and behave responsibly

Quoting Tinkerbellmama:

 


Quoting packermomof2:

I think it is stupid that you need a CO to tell you to let the oP have the time with the kid whenever whose time it is can't be there... All he had to do was tell mom his job called him in and ask him if she wants to come get the child and that he'll pick him back up when he is done or later on.. 

See, this I don't understand. If it's dad's time with the kid, and he gets called into work for a few hours, why should the kid automatically go back to BM?

 

TempestRayne
by Donna on Dec. 7, 2012 at 7:14 AM
Sorry.
LittleMama2012
by Silver Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 7:17 AM
Poor kid! I really hate when the kid gets put in the middle. Everyone has to work to have anything in life. That is just sad.
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Amy1973Potts
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:01 AM
Right of first refusal. Im too tired to explain. Google can do alot better. Sorry lol
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Charli627
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:33 AM
Right of first refusal.

Basically if one of the parents can not watch the kid/kids, they are to call the other parent and ask if they want the kid/kids before finding other means of childcare. If the other parents says yes, then the kid/kids are suppose to go to the parent. If not, the that parent can find someone to watch the kids.


Quoting lnr187:

 what is ROFR?


Quoting Amy1973Potts:

Amen. Not all children have to magically go back to a parent the instant the other one leaves for whatever reason, barring ROFR. Which is ridicilous anyway. Just a paper pissing contest when adults refuse to be adults and behave responsibly


Quoting Tinkerbellmama:


 



Quoting packermomof2:


I think it is stupid that you need a CO to tell you to let the oP have the time with the kid whenever whose time it is can't be there... All he had to do was tell mom his job called him in and ask him if she wants to come get the child and that he'll pick him back up when he is done or later on.. 


See, this I don't understand. If it's dad's time with the kid, and he gets called into work for a few hours, why should the kid automatically go back to BM?


 

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Charli627
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:34 AM
Right of first refusal.

Basically if one of the parents can not watch the kid/kids, they are to call the other parent and ask if they want the kid/kids before finding other means of childcare. If the other parents says yes, then the kid/kids are suppose to go to the parent. If not, the that parent can find someone to watch the kids.


Quoting lnr187:

 what is ROFR?


Quoting Amy1973Potts:

Amen. Not all children have to magically go back to a parent the instant the other one leaves for whatever reason, barring ROFR. Which is ridicilous anyway. Just a paper pissing contest when adults refuse to be adults and behave responsibly


Quoting Tinkerbellmama:


 



Quoting packermomof2:


I think it is stupid that you need a CO to tell you to let the oP have the time with the kid whenever whose time it is can't be there... All he had to do was tell mom his job called him in and ask him if she wants to come get the child and that he'll pick him back up when he is done or later on.. 


See, this I don't understand. If it's dad's time with the kid, and he gets called into work for a few hours, why should the kid automatically go back to BM?


 

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Charli627
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:38 AM
Yeah and op said bm works too so who is watching him when she works, it doesn't sound like she is sending him to dad.

And at my dh job, he is a rover. Meaning like on call for different locations. And bm lives almost a hour away. So if he got called in for 5 and it is 4 when he got the call, taking skids back and coming back will make him almost an hour late.


Quoting Tinkerbellmama:



Quoting packermomof2:

I think it is stupid that you need a CO to tell you to let the oP have the time with the kid whenever whose time it is can't be there... All he had to do was tell mom his job called him in and ask him if she wants to come get the child and that he'll pick him back up when he is done or later on.. 

See, this I don't understand. If it's dad's time with the kid, and he gets called into work for a few hours, why should the kid automatically go back to BM?

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Charli627
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:39 AM
Yeah and op said bm works too so who is watching him when she works, it doesn't sound like she is sending him to dad.

And at my dh job, he is a rover. Meaning like on call for different locations. And bm lives almost a hour away. So if he got called in for 5 and it is 4 when he got the call, taking skids back and coming back will make him almost an hour late.


Quoting Tinkerbellmama:



Quoting packermomof2:

I think it is stupid that you need a CO to tell you to let the oP have the time with the kid whenever whose time it is can't be there... All he had to do was tell mom his job called him in and ask him if she wants to come get the child and that he'll pick him back up when he is done or later on.. 

See, this I don't understand. If it's dad's time with the kid, and he gets called into work for a few hours, why should the kid automatically go back to BM?

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