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ANOTHER new guy...

Posted by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:17 PM
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So, I just dropped SD off with BM. BM showed up with another new guy. This is guy #3 since June. And this is not the guy BM is living with.

First off, BM only sees SD one weekend a month (by choice). And secondly, what parent introduces new guys to their kids this often and this quickly? 

by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:17 PM
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sandeeyo
by Le Bonjour Chat on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:24 PM

Is SD affected by the fact that BM dates?

sandeeyo
by Le Bonjour Chat on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:25 PM

Oh, and I introduced my son to the guys I dated.  He really could have given a crap either way, he just ignored it.  I don't think a parent is necessarily bad if they introduce their kids to the people they date.  DH introduced me to his kids after about 3 weeks of dating.

CKuse
by Bronze Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:28 PM
DH doesnt like how many men have been paraded through SS's life ( there have been 12 and SS is only 2)..... but theres nothing he can do about it so he has learned to let it go.
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Tinkerbellmama
by Platinum Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:35 PM

The issue isn't the dating, it's the sleeping over, drinking, and arguements that often occur with BM and her "friends". Even when BM was married she had other guys sleeping in her bed, with SD there. And, she's living with another guy, as in they share a bed living with.

BM only picks SD up for the weekend when BM's taking SD to BM's mom's house 4 hours away. So, she's taking her daughter for a weekend visit to see family, and  bringing a new guy, who is new as of the last 2 weeks, while she's currently living with another guy.

That's the issue.

And yes, SD is bothered by it. It was an issue when she spoke with an intake specialist at a counseling center. SD specifically mentiond how she gets sad when her "uncles" leave and she doesn't get to see them anymore. The intake specialist asked about the uncles, BM doesn't have any brothers, just one sister. The sister and her husband live in another country. SD was talking about all the men in and out of her life. 

Quoting sandeeyo:

Oh, and I introduced my son to the guys I dated.  He really could have given a crap either way, he just ignored it.  I don't think a parent is necessarily bad if they introduce their kids to the people they date.  DH introduced me to his kids after about 3 weeks of dating.


saywhat2102
by Gold Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:38 PM
Maybe its true love.....
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Chibi_Kitten
by Krystal on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:39 PM

 Dating in general wouldn't worry me. I personally wouldn't introduce them to my kids until we'd been dating for a month or so but that's just my personal preference.

This, however, would really concern me. :(

Quoting Tinkerbellmama:

The issue isn't the dating, it's the sleeping over, drinking, and arguements that often occur with BM and her "friends". Even when BM was married she had other guys sleeping in her bed, with SD there. And, she's living with another guy, as in they share a bed living with.

BM only picks SD up for the weekend when BM's taking SD to BM's mom's house 4 hours away. So, she's taking her daughter for a weekend visit to see family, and  bringing a new guy, who is new as of the last 2 weeks, while she's currently living with another guy.

That's the issue.

And yes, SD is bothered by it. It was an issue when she spoke with an intake specialist at a counseling center. SD specifically mentiond how she gets sad when her "uncles" leave and she doesn't get to see them anymore. The intake specialist asked about the uncles, BM doesn't have any brothers, just one sister. The sister and her husband live in another country. SD was talking about all the men in and out of her life

Quoting sandeeyo:

Oh, and I introduced my son to the guys I dated.  He really could have given a crap either way, he just ignored it.  I don't think a parent is necessarily bad if they introduce their kids to the people they date.  DH introduced me to his kids after about 3 weeks of dating.

 

 

Tinkerbellmama
by Platinum Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:44 PM

Her last live in boyfriend before the guy she's currently living with had a drinking problem. SD complained to us, her teacher, and the intake specialist at the counseling clinic that he would drink too much beer and then yell and fight with BM, often waking SD up in the middle of the night with his fighting.

Quoting Chibi_Kitten:

 Dating in general wouldn't worry me. I personally wouldn't introduce them to my kids until we'd been dating for a month or so but that's just my personal preference.

This, however, would really concern me. :(

Quoting Tinkerbellmama:

The issue isn't the dating, it's the sleeping over, drinking, and arguements that often occur with BM and her "friends". Even when BM was married she had other guys sleeping in her bed, with SD there. And, she's living with another guy, as in they share a bed living with.

BM only picks SD up for the weekend when BM's taking SD to BM's mom's house 4 hours away. So, she's taking her daughter for a weekend visit to see family, and  bringing a new guy, who is new as of the last 2 weeks, while she's currently living with another guy.

That's the issue.

And yes, SD is bothered by it. It was an issue when she spoke with an intake specialist at a counseling center. SD specifically mentiond how she gets sad when her "uncles" leave and she doesn't get to see them anymore. The intake specialist asked about the uncles, BM doesn't have any brothers, just one sister. The sister and her husband live in another country. SD was talking about all the men in and out of her life

Quoting sandeeyo:

Oh, and I introduced my son to the guys I dated.  He really could have given a crap either way, he just ignored it.  I don't think a parent is necessarily bad if they introduce their kids to the people they date.  DH introduced me to his kids after about 3 weeks of dating.


 


Tinkerbellmama
by Platinum Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:46 PM

And not only does she introduce men to SD left and right (at least 14 that we know of), she often has them babysit SD. That hasn't happened since DH had custody, but her last live in boyfriend (the one with the drinking issue) used to pick SD up from school and watch her in the evenings until BM's mom got home...

Chibi_Kitten
by Krystal on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:46 PM

 That's sad... :(

Quoting Tinkerbellmama:

Her last live in boyfriend before the guy she's currently living with had a drinking problem. SD complained to us, her teacher, and the intake specialist at the counseling clinic that he would drink too much beer and then yell and fight with BM, often waking SD up in the middle of the night with his fighting.

Quoting Chibi_Kitten:

Charli627
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 9:59 PM
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Quoting saywhat2102:

Maybe its true love.....
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