im still having problems connecting with ss...at this moment im feeling hopeless. any suggestions?
I've been with my husband for 5 yrs and we've been married for 1 1/2 yr. i have a daughter thats 7(mine from another) and a s.s. thats 8. my ss is a strong willed child. anyone who really knows what that means knows its not easy. and the smallest thing can turn eveyones whole day upside down. me and ss never really had a good bond. i dont want to sound like a B. but i feel sometimes hes just too difficult and i dont know how to handle him. my daughter is so easy, doesn't argue or snap at me. isnt a cry baby over small things like ss.i guess i feel hes older he should be more mature. but hes not, he crys over the stupidest things if he doesnt get his way. i think he might be jelous and seems a little hateful towards my daughter at times. i know my problem is that i keep comparing them. and its been so long im not sure how i should handle it. ss bm is starting to become a flake. which is making ss behavior worse towards our family. hes getting disrespectful to me and his dad. with his bad behavior i just want to smack him sometimes. but then i think how terrified i was of my parents when i was young and i dont want him to become violent with those actions. IM JUST SO FRUSTRATED! any suggestions? does it get easier?? husband and i are at a disagreement on how im going about this.. he says my problem is that i dont see ss as mine. and i think he might be right. i almost feel as IF this marragewas to evr fail, its would be bc me and ss could never connect. its just been so long that me and ss has been"dealing" with each other that now theres a brick wall btwn us. me and husband rarely have disagreements.. but when we do its always about ss. i dont know what to do.. on a side note its a little hard to spend a little one on one time with ss bc im going through a custody battle with bd. my daughter wants all my attention when im around. i work alot and the kids are always with husband.