So my fiance has finally earned parenting time with his son (2yrs) and we are in a schedule moving towards once a week and every other weekend. Currently we are at twice a week for two hours each move up to twice a week (2 and 4) in one more week.
My Fiance and I will be getting married in July and this has been in the works since this past June. Birth mom has made it very clear that she is mom, and I am fine with that. Me and my Fiance both currently get along with the birth mom and I want it to stay that way. But it can sometimes be awkward when we are both there in those mothering times. So I have a few questions that are hard for any of my other friends to relate to
1. At what point should he be my responsiblity instead of me helping my fiance out
2. At what point can I consider and refer to him as part of my family
3. He will be calling my sisters aunt and my nephew cousins is it weird for him to just continue to call me by my name, if so at what point should I change it, not to step on the birth moms toes?
Thank you, I look forward to replies from people who might understand what I am going through a little better.