Many of you in this group have been SM's a long time! My DH has it in his head that when his DD turns 18, things are going to change for the better. Meaning, he feels that she'll be able to make her own decisions w/out the influence of BM or BM can't tell her she can't be at our home/not allow her to come over. (For those who aren't familiar w/my story-there is severe Parental Alienation in our situation) We hardly see her/talk to her! She's 16!! Seeing or talking to us doesn't seem like it is important to her (if it is, she doesn't show it)
She gripes because she & her BM doesn't get to see/talk to her brother (by BM-that BM lost custody of that lives not far from us-BM moved states away!) & she has 2 brothers by DH & I, that we've never kept them from her, she's always had their cell phone #'s, that she doesn't even BOTHER trying to stay in touch w/them. NOTHING!(my YDS especially, used to call/text her all the time-she'd always be real short w/him & he always got an immediate g2g ttyl THAT'S gotta go, talk to you later!! That even he told me, "The heck w/it!" He's now 11...SAD right?) My ODS (13) has said if she doesn't seem to want to see/talk to him or us, then he doesn't even want to see her! He said it's like they have a sister but they don't :( Last time we saw her was June of this year, we've been lucky to talk to her since then.
She's supposedly coming down to see everybody for Christmas (BM said SD acted like she really didn't want to) arrangements were made w/BM's MOTHER!! (not DH!) DH had to call/text asking if/when she's coming. It's sad all the way around!! So does the BIG 18 make a difference? Did any of you have SK's that it wasn't until after they were an adult, away from the BM, etc. that the SK's finally spoke to you more, came around more??? Is my DH going to be right? or is he just being hopeful, having wishful thinking? His DD doesn't realize the severity of the situation, most kids don't, & I know it's not her fault.